Let's be honest: long-distance relationships are a pain. Only the person on the other end of the line, whom you adore, makes things bearable. While long-distance relationships can cause anxiety about what your spouse is doing or if they will lose interest, they are also the ultimate test that can help you improve your relationship and change it for the better. You both choose to stay together despite the distance, which is promising in and of itself. When things get tough, remember to respect your S.O. and remember that distance doesn't matter when you love someone so deeply. When it comes to keeping your attraction alive and your connection from becoming stale, there are a few crucial measures to follow.
While being away may be unsettling, these suggestions will help you relax. Here are eleven suggestions for making your long-distance relationship more manageable:
To put it another way, only speak when you have something to say. While it's crucial to communicate, giving your partner a rundown of your every move is annoying. All of this might lead to a decrease in attractiveness and an increase in the number of dull conversations. Give your bae the usual "good morning, have a good day!" throughout the day, and end your day with a FaceTime where you can discuss your day face-to-face.
2. Make sure you have similar goals in common
Assess your long-term goals before entering a long-distance relationship (LDR). Do you intend to stay in the same city? Do you want to move in together as soon as possible? Will you both be able to keep your jobs? Do you picture yourself settling down with this person in the future? All of these are crucial questions that can make or break a relationship. Putting yourself through an LDR could be a waste of time if your goals aren't aligned and you don't see yourself staying together in the long run.
3. Send surprise gifts
Send a modest token of your love to your sweetheart to show them how much they mean to you. Send a Bond Touch Bracelet for both you and your significant other to wear. When you think of your spouse, simply touch the bracelet, and theirs will light up and vibrate. Send a love note, a duffel bag for a future vacation, or a pillowcase scented with your aroma.
4. Always have a future date for when you’ll see eachother next
It's easy to fall into a hole of anxiety over when you'll see each other next if you don't have a future date in mind. This is the most crucial point, since it is the glue that ties a long-distance relationship together. Plan future adventures that you can look forward to together if you can. Your relationship will get even stronger as a result of your travels.
5. Let them know you’re thinking about them
Sometimes our entire day can be turned around when our partner sends us something that lets them know we’re on his/her mind. This could be a picture, a sign on a billboard, a Tweet or an Instagram post of an inside joke. There’s no better feeling.
6. Make them a playlist
Music is something that can creatively communicate how you feel. Compile a playlist of all the songs that remind you of your partner or how they make you feel. Gift it as a fun way to remind them how much you love them.
7. Netflix n’ chill
That’s right: virtual Netflix n’ chill. Have a long distance movie night by choosing a movie or show to watch together. Find a time you both are going to start it and then have a discussion about it as it goes on. This is a great way to still experience things together when you're apart.
8. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.
If you can’t communicate effectively, long-distance is just not for you. Communication is the foundation of all relationships, but all the more important once you're apart. There’s a bliss point between being excessively annoying and not giving enough. Get creative by sending voice messages as your response over a text sometimes, send videos of you talking about things happening during your day or have a random FaceTime call.
9. Don’t over-plan you time together
When you finally get time together, don’t plan it down to the second. Leave some room for a spontaneous outing or some much needed personal time. Truthfully, more times than not you need to just relax together and laying on the couch is better than a 5-star dinner sometimes.
10. Swap belongings
Oh, the sweatshirts make the time apart all the more bearable. One of the best feelings is throwing on your partner's sweatshirt or T-shirt and it still has a hint of their scent. Or, if you have a gift from them, use it. Every article of clothing or gift is always better when it's from your special person. It sometimes can make them feel closer than they really are.
11. Have an end in sight
Above all, you need to have an end; long distance relationships cannot be done forever. You will either end by settling down or by breaking up. If you want to have a successful LDR, you have to want to eventually be living life together and have some time frame of when that will be.